How To Argue (in A Healthy Way)

How To Argue (in A Healthy Way)



3 years ago

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If you're anything like me, the words "conflict resolution" strike fear into your very soul. Growing up, we didn't so much talk about our problems as bury our emotions deep inside a well never to be seen or heard from again.

Unfortunately, I'm also one of those people who can hold a serious grudge (if it wasn't so depressing, it'd be a real talent), and paired with repressing all negative emotion… well, let's just say it's not the healthiest way to live.

Enter my decision to learn how to argue, or *professor voice* conduct a successful round of conflict resolution. Obviously, I can't be left to my own devices in this field, so I consulted my (very wise) sister-in-law, Amy, who has actually used conflict resolution in her real life… and lived to tell about it. Here's the deal:

Pick your battles
Conflict resolution isn't about griping over every single thing that has ever had the audacity to disrupt your universe - you'll drive yourself (and everyone else) crazy.

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Use this method on things that stick with you - arguments that you're still stewing over four days later, fights that make you cry and scream into your pillow, sarcastic jibes that are cutting you up three weeks in.

Ask yourself 'is this worth it?' If the answer to that is no, then anonymously forgive them and move forward.

It's also important to recognize where the other person or people involved are in their lives. If your friend's father just had a heart attack, it's SO NOT the time to bring up that biting comment she said that really hurt you. She's not in a place to hear that. Part of being a good friend - and a good maestro of conflict resolution - is acknowledging that.

Read more at: http://www.virtuedigest.com/how-to-argue-in-a-healthy-way/.

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