Recall that sometime in 2017, Seyi Law and controversial journalist Kemi Olunloyo had a clash on Instagram as the controversial journalist tagged Seyi Law's daughter to be Obese, which is a disorder involving excessive body fat that increases the risk of health problems. Though some of those Instagram posts have been deleted but this one posted below was among such posts by Kemi where she mocked the baby.

However, Forgiveness and letting go are not things that are so easy to come by. We are all humans and at one point or the other, we are guilty of making people feel bad with how we have treated them. However, it takes a brave person to forgive and let go.

This is what comedian Seyi Law has just done, as he has let go of his dispute with Dr. Kemi Olunloyo who is known to be very controversial with her approach to journalism. See some of her pictures.

That derogatory and unnecessary term "obese" used by journalist Kemi Olunloyo back then, did not go down well with Seyi Law and thus led to a dispute that lasted for some time.

However, the talented comedian has seen the need to let go, and let love lead as he took to his Instagram handle to share to his fans and friends that he is now cool with the journalist. See the post he shared.

The journalist also took to the comment section, to show her appreciation and also allow bygones to be bygones.

Followers of the comedian also thanked him for his forgivibg spirit as they took to the comment section to express their delight.

This is definitely a beautiful thing. Forgiveness and letting go is not easy, but it goes a long way to heal many wounds.

It's not a big deal to sometimes reconsider some old, selfish ways and show a willingness to meet your partner halfway.

It's a cool way to show that you are ready to pitch in with effort on your part, in order for the relationship to work for things to sync perfectly. But then, there's a limit to how far you can possibly take this.

There are things you cannot overlook in a relationship, some grounds you should not shift, and some compromises you really don't have to make. If you have ever wondered what the line to never cross is, here are part of those things you should never compromise for the sake of relationship:

1. Boundaries

There are boundaries that need to be set in every relationship. What you'll take and what you won't. Some boundaries are off limits and cannot be encroached, there are personal, positive values you hold tightly and should not let go of. You absolutely have to express this before the relationship begins or before you go too far into it and experience a lot of misunderstandings.

Knowing, understanding and respecting these boundaries helps the relationship run smoothly, helps you avoid conflicts and makes you both look like a match made in heaven.

And most importantly, it makes you retain your identity. You won't have to feel like you gave up too much of yourself just to make the man or woman stay, or to make the relationship work.

Engage only on things, and be with only people that make you happy, and make you feel comfortable with yourself.

Do only things, and be with only people that make you happy, and make you feel comfortable with yourself. 

2. Your self-respect

Can there be love and happy relationships without respect? It is highly impossible for a relationship to last or be happy when one partner does not understand how respect works, or shows an unwillingness to live by it.

If you are with someone who shows regular signs of disrespect, don’t try to make excuse for them. It's probably just going to get worse. Do not live with constant, intentional disrespect for the sake of a relationship. Because, really, is it even a relationship if it lacks mutual respect?

Also don't beg to be loved. It is never worth it.

If your partner regularly disrespects you, you need to address it. Disrespect is not something to compromise on, really. 

If your partner regularly disrespects you, you need to address it. Disrespect is not something to compromise on, really. 

3. Great friendships

Never let go of great friendships because of a relationship and try to call it compromise.

The healthy, productive friends you've had before should be kept. They have their space and roles in your life and your partner has to get used to that.

If you're with someone who tries to block all the great friendships you have, that's a red flag you shouldn’t ignore.

4. Dreams

Your long-held dreams and aspirations are valid and deserve to be actualised. Don't give them up for the sake of a relationship.

5. Your family

Nothing, I repeat nothing should make you want to give that up. No one should make you give up your family.

The Influencer had made the statement in a post on his social media handle, Pokovirtuousblog can report.

Idris is arguably one of the most powerful Lifestyle Entrepreneurs of Nigerian origin today. The Fashion Model enjoys sharing luxury pictures of himself on his social media handles.

In a post on his Instagram handle Monday, July 24, 2023, the Entertainer shared a number of stunning photographs of himself, adding that he moves with precision.

"Moving with Precision 🦅

#monday #summer #millennials #weekday #nyc #newpost #trending #precision."

Story Title: FARIDA

PART 1

“Farida! Farida! Where is this girl?”

“I am here maami.”

“Oya go and bath quickly so you can help brother Ade run some errands.”

“Maami, please I don’t want to work today, I am very tired.”

“If you don’t work what will we eat? If you do some work for him we will be able to eat bread this morning and amala in the afternoon.”

“Ok, ma.”

Nine-year-old Farida went to shower and get ready for the day’s chores. She was to help him sweep his room, wash plates and run errands for him. She would have preferred to play with her friends since it was a Saturday but then what will they eat if she doesn’t work. She got ready and resumed her work.

“Brother Ade good morning. Do you have any work for me?”

“Farida my wife how are you? I always have something for you. First, you will wash plates; they are not much. After that, you will buy bread and beans that we will eat before we clean the room.”

“Thank you, brother Ade,” Farida replied excitedly.

 

After food, Farida washed the plates and wanted to start cleaning the room but Ade stopped her. 

“Farida come and sit down. Sit beside me. You don’t need to do any more work today and you will get good money. You just make me happy and you will get all you want”

“No more work? Thank you, brother. But what will maami and my brothers eat?

“I will give you N500.00 to give them today instead of N100.”

“Brother Ade thank you. That money will last us 3 days.” She replied excitedly

“I know. I want us to play a game.”

“What type of game?”

“I will be the daddy and you will be the mummy.”

“Oh, you want us to act drama?”

“Yes. And do what mummy and daddy used to do. You will remove your clothes and lie on my bed and I will remove my own and we will sleep together.”

“Ok.”

She removed her clothes and laid on the bed. She was excited lying on the bed because at home she and her brothers sleep on the mat. Even the mattress maami slept on was not as comfortable as this one. She had been tempted to jump on it but because she does not want to offend brother Ade she did not. Today, she is lying on the bed and acting drama with Brother Ade. She was very happy. 

Brother Ade closed the curtains of his room, locked the door and turned on the television before removing his clothes and joining her. They lay down together and then Brother rested his hand on the tiny mounds on her chest. He fondled her nipples and she became uncomfortable. She tried to remove his hands but he told her to relax and enjoy it, it was Mummy and Daddy play. He then extended his hand to her pants and stuck his finger inside her vagina which made her cry out in pain. 

“Don’t shout!” uncle Ade scolded.

“But it is paining me.”

“I won’t do it again. Did you like how I touched you?”

“No, I did not. I want to go.”

“Wait now. Come here” he hugged her “I am sorry. Let me touch you in a way you will like it.”

“Don’t touch me again.”

“Ok, my dear. I love you. You cannot tell anyone that we are acting Mummy and Daddy drama here. Apart from the money, I will give you money for biscuit, sweets and chewing gum.”

“Will you give me brother Ade?”

“Yes, and if you allow me to touch you without telling anybody, I will buy things for you any time I come back from work. You are my wife.”

“But it pained me.”

“This time it will not pain you. And you will also touch Daddy.”

“Wear your clothes and go and buy biscuits and sweets and come back. I will wait for you.” He said giving her N10.

“Ok, let me go quickly.”

She went, bought the things and came back really excited. She would eat all this by herself.

“Eat your biscuit and allow me to touch you. It will not pain you I promise.”

He laid her on the bed. While she ate, he struck his manhood on her genitals. He did this until he was satisfied. “This was a start,” he said to himself “with time I will be able to penetrate.” He cleaned her up, reminded her that it was a secret. He gave N500 after she had finished eating and she left. She kept their secret.

Every evening he comes home, he will call Farida, give her orange or apple or puff puff or sweet then proceed to play Daddy and Mummy with her. Gradually, he started getting her to touch his manhood. She would hold it in her small hands and he will direct her on what to do. This excited him very much. Then he started inserting his finger into her vagina. He used Vaseline to ease her pain. She endured it because of the treats. She enjoyed her treats. He had bought her silence.

One fateful Saturday, brother Ade hurriedly did the house chores before Farida came so he would have more time with her. She came in and met bread, eggs, butter and sardines. This was luxury to this little girl. He asked her to undress so she won’t stain her outfit and then prepared the breakfast for her with rich and creamy beverage too. She was served like she was being fattened for the slaughterhouse. She enjoyed the meal. It was a hearty meal. He put on the television and increased the volume louder than before. He made her touch him the way he taught her. Then he fondled her breasts. He laid her on the bed and fingered her with the Vaseline. She was used to it now and wasn’t scared any more. What happened next she didn’t expect. He was on top of her, used his hand to cover her mouth and then penetrated the little girl. She passed out from the pain but it did not stop him from going on. When he was spent, he sprinkled water on her to revive her. She started crying. He tried to pacify her. He gave her yoghurt to stop the tears but it was beyond treats. He begged her to stop crying, cleaned her up and gave her painkillers and a sleeping tablet. She continued crying and wriggle in pain. He asked her to dress up and lay down on the bed and sleep to ease the pain. His heart was racing. He hoped she won’t spill the beans. He wondered what will happen if she does. He was so frightened; he squeezed ten pieces of N100 notes into her hand and took off.

Farida woke up alone in his room. She felt something in her hand. She saw the N1,000 he had put in it. This will make maami happy. She left the room. She couldn’t walk properly. The pain was excruciating. The way she walked was a giveaway. Mama Joy was washing in the courtyard. She watched Farida as she walked out of the room. She knew something was wrong and asked her.

“Farida, wetin do you?”

“Nothing ma.”

“Why you dey waka like that?”

“Nothing.”

Farida refused to say anything because Mama Joy was the compound gossip. She would tell everyone what transpired and call her names any times she passes. She didn’t get along well with maami and she would use this to insult her. Farida didn’t want that.

Ade surveyed from a distance.  Ade wanted to know what happens if they find out from a safe distance. He would not like to be attacked by his compound people. He had left with his certificates and some other sensitive documents in case they decide to burn his possession. He saw Mama Joy interrogating Farida as she left the room. The woman never minds her business. He had compensated Farida very well. He was really scared but was glad she didn’t say anything.

When Farida entered her home, her mother immediately sensed that there was something wrong. 

“Are you ok? Why are you walking like that?”

“I am fine ma. Take, Brother Ade gave me N1,000.00 today for my work.”

“God bless that man. This will tide us for 4 days if we manage it well. Go and take your bath. You must be tired from all that work.”

She went to take a bath and returned to the room. Her private part still ached, she could not wash it well and could not close her legs completely. Why did Brother Ade do this to her. He made her promise not to tell anyone. He also promised to buy her suya when he comes back later tonight. She made up her mind not to go back to Brother Ade’s room again. Any chore outside the room she can do but she will not enter into his room again. 

Ade waited until quite late and nothing happened. He bought the suya he had promised Farida earlier. He came to her house and gave it to her. He whispered to her that he was sorry and it won’t happen like that again. Farida was numb; she was no more interested. She handed the suya to her mother and went inside to lie down. He was worried about her. He knew she would get better after some time. In the meantime, he had to appease her somehow.

After the incident, whenever he calls her to his room, she refuses to enter. She would run errands for him but would not enter his room. He was worried. How would he pacify her? She was too scared to enter his room. He devised methods to lure her and for the first time, he realised how strong willed Farida was.

On Saturday morning, maami sent Farida to Brother Ade to work but she refused to go. She asked why and she told maami she did not want to act drama anymore. A confused maami asked her, 

“What type of drama do you act with him?”

“He said I should not tell anyone. It is Mummy and Daddy play. The last time we acted the play, he wounded me. I don’t want to act the drama again.”

“How do you act this drama?”

Farida narrated to her mother from the first day to the last all the activities they engaged in during the drama. She told her the things he bought for her to buy her silence. Her mother was shocked. Men are mean. It was condition that forced her into this life. Now look what happened to her daughter. Why was life so cruel? Why was fate so wicked? This was their only source of livelihood. Farida was bringing in way more money on the weekends than she gets from the work she does. What should she do? She thought about it for the whole day. Such things are not exposed. It will be a stigma on Farida and other men would want to take advantage knowing she was now open. She didn't want that life for her daughter. Ade will be taught a lesson. He had to pay for what he had done. She knew she had to be more protective of Farida now. They would use the incident to their advantage. She wouldnt work for him but he will keep paying her until she was satisfied.

That night, she called her daughter and talked to her about.

“I am sorry my daughter. You have become a woman so quickly. This is the way of the world. We will use it to our advantage.”

“How maami?”

“You will tell brother Ade that your maami is asking questions. She wants to know what happened in his room. That the compound people are talking about it. He will be afraid and give you money not to talk.”

“Ah maami! What if he touches me again? It was very painful; I don’t want him to do it to me again.”

“He won’t. He will be too afraid to do it again.”

“I don’t want to do drama with him again. Please maami. Tell him I don’t want to act mummy and daddy with him again.”

“Don’t be afraid. You will not act drama with him again. Just tell him what I said.”

Maami’s idea worked. Farida told brother Ade that maami was asking questions and people are talking in the compound. He took her into his room and begged her not to tell anybody what he did. He gave her N2,000 so she could keep quiet. Maami used the defilement of Farida to make money for the family. Whenever she greeted brother Ade, she will eye him and give him a knowing look; When they are in a meeting, she deliberately calls his name and looks at him with disdain without saying anything. Ade, out of fear,  will call Farida and give her money. Farida didn’t need to do chores to get money. This was way easier.

Maami also refered to as Iya Farida was the last wife of Alhaji Abubakar. She was barely 15 years old when she was given to her husband as a gift. She was in S.S. 1 in the government girls’ college when the marriage took place. She had other plans for her life but her father insisted that she gets married to Alhaji. Alhaji was older than her father but she didn’t have a choice than to obey him. She was wife number four. He had to divorce one of his wives to be able to marry her. The night of the wedding, Alhaji forced himself on her. It was the most painful and disgusting experience she had ever had. She watched him snore fast asleep after the act wondering what she was doing with a man old enough to be her grandfather. 

She was made to ‘service’ him every day except the days she was “unclean”. By the next month, she was pregnant. Alhaji was very happy and allowed her to rest during the pregnancy period. She begged Alhaji to allow her to continue her education; she wanted to have WAEC at least. That was when she received the first beating from her husband. Alhaji beat her to a pulp, raped her and locked her in the room. She stayed there for three days surviving only on water before he allowed her out. He warned her that women do not have ambition in his house. 

She delivered her first child, it was a baby girl. Alhaji called her Farida. After the delivery, Alhaji requested for her almost every night. She conceived again not long after. 

One night, Alhaji sent for her and she sent word back that she was not feeling well. Alhaji was angry. He came to her room and saw her shivering in bed with her daughter. He descended on her. He beat her, punching her face and stomach. He then had his way with her and left her there. By morning, she was half gone. Her bed was soaked with blood. It was the cries of her baby Farida that drew the attention of the other wives. She was rushed to the health centre. She had lost the baby and almost lost her life. The doctor asked her who beat her in this manner. She confessed it was her husband. The doctor advised her to leave the marriage. The next beating, she might not survive it.

She visited her parents and complained to them. Her mother told her to bear it and try not to provoke her husband. She said, “Matter between husband and wife are not discussed with a third party. Stay back at her husband’s house and endure”. For how long was she to endure? The man was mean to her. He only desired her body and nothing else. He never talks to her or discusses anything with her. After some time, she accepted her fate.

The doctor put her on a daily pill so she doesn’t get pregnant so soon after the miscarriage. She continued with the pill after she had finished the initial set. Her husband and his wives were illiterates. She was the most educated of all of them. She worked on improving herself. She made sure she read a book or any other material on a daily basis. She didn’t want to lose all she had learnt that night for a future yet unknown.

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(Source - IBB MEDIA)